Christine Ryan-Else, a 66-year old retiree from Chesterfield in Derbyshire, won £3,116 on the free online lottery, Pick My Postcode!

Christine first joined Pick My Postcode in 2017, after seeing it featured on Martin Lewis, Money Saving Expert. And finally after years of checking daily and building her bonus through surveys, her postcode was picked on the Main draw, winning her an unbelievable £3,116, completely for free.
When asked how it felt to win, Christine said: “I am still in shock as I never thought it would be me. What a great surprise it was and it came the day after my 66th birthday. What a great present. I have now received my winnings and still cannot believe it.”
Christine also said “It means a lot to me, especially as it is such a big amount. I still cannot believe it.” This is her first win on Pick My Postcode. “I have always checked it everyday from the start of joining.” Speaking on building her large bonus over the years of checking she said, “some of the surveys are really good to do and others are a bit of a bind as they say they last for 15 mins and usually it takes much longer, but I have persevered and that is why I had a good bonus.”
When asked how she planned to spend the winnings, Christine said: “I did think maybe I could spend it on a small holiday but then I thought more practical and I may buy some new worktops for the kitchen, at least then everyday I look at them it will remind me of the win.”
She continued on to say: “I originally did think that it cannot be real, especially when the bonus mounts up. Even my husband didn’t believe it, every time I said I’m just doing a survey he would say you wont win anything. I did think they won’t pay out that much, but I am living proof that it can happen to you. Just keep on doing the surveys and mounting up the money and one day soon it could be your postcode.”
The site offers multiple opportunities for your postcode to be picked every single day. Pick My Postcode has 7,477 active members in Derbyshire and since 2011, the residents have won a total of £66,868.44.
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Pearl
14 minutes ago
At the top of my daily email, received by my computer, there is a phrase followed by an amount of money. I assume it is the total of prizes for that day. However the phrase says "Socket can"! I have checked on several days' worth of emails and they are all the same. So, why the strange wording?
Marie
in 30 minutes
Pearl, at the top of the reminder emails it states "Prize pot" followed by the total amount available across all draws for that day and "Your Bonus", which is what is currently in your bonus pot. I assume you may be referring to where it says "Prize pot" based on what you have said. I have no idea why yours is showing as "Socket can". Please could you send us a screenshot of this, along with your device make & model and browser details, so that we can pass it onto Tech? Thank you.
Shyboy
4 hours ago
Well that was a pleasant surprise. Offered a £2 PMP survey. Thought it would be the usual politics but no, it wasn't. A very interesting one about the Chichester Festival Theatre and I finished it. I only came in out of the garden for a coffee. It is hot out there with light cloud. Two washing loads hung up and the duvet out there for an airing.
Jaffa
20 minutes ago
Good to have an interesting survey that you can give honest feedback to.
Hope you have some more!
anng
2 hours ago
Meanwhile in North-West Wales we have heavy rain and strong blustery wind, as usual.
Beth8it!
14 hours ago
Unsettling experience tonight - lounging around watching TV, curtains open as usual in summer, and a vehicle comes down the track. I noticed it had stopped outside and thought, ‘Amazon - better put the outside lights on so he can see the house name on the gate.’ It then went on past the gate so I assumed it wanted my neighbour and sat down again, but it turned in my gateway and stopped outside again. This time it was there a good few seconds so I stood up again, went outside to see if maybe they were lost, and it drove off again up the track. Nothing particularly unusual in that, but it was very late, around 10.45pm, well after Amazon time, so I left the lights on and sat down again. What bothered me was that the same vehicle came back around 11.30 pm and did the same again. Looking in the window to see me here alone, then driving off as soon as I look like coming out to them? Not normal. In a very isolated area like this, we don’t just ignore things like that. It was a big vehicle, at least as big as my Volvo SUV, with very high lights at the back - may have been a pickup with a high trailer back, King Cab type and I think the top lights may have been orange. Anyway, that was enough for me. I phoned 101, reported to a very nice police lady who said it was quite right to report it but there wasn’t much they could do without knowing what the vehicle was. She would make sure the info went to the local officers to be aware and to be on the look out if tey were in this area. Anyway, I was telling stepson’s girlfriend (he is away at the moment) and she came up straight away. She is staying in his room overnight with Poppy the Lunatic in the lounge so hopefully that end of the house is covered too. Provided they don’t come back and decide to break in, I will report back in the morning!
Jaffa
18 minutes ago
Yes do you have a motion detector light Beth?
Failing that get in touch with the police and ask if they will do a home security check.We had one and they did offer some very practical advice.
AJR
an hour ago
As much as I hate where I live, I don't think I could be in an isolated area. Hope you get the alarm sorted out and hope they don't come back. Iike Suelero I would also have been up all night.
Beth8it!
1 hours ago
Got an ADT alarm system, but unfortunately it chose yesterday to do its occasional drop-off and it only came back online when I reset it when I had gone out to look up the track. Got a picture of me at the gate but that’s all between 7.15pm and 11.45pm. I have contacted ADT today to get it che cked out or replaced as it is no good if not reliable.
IShyboy, there certainly wasn’t much of the night left when I went to sleep!
😎👍🏼 ...9--0==✈🌞🐯
2 hours ago
Get a Ring door camera. It records anyone who enters your property & can send alerts to your smartphone wherever you are.
Suelero
2 hours ago
😯 I would have been up all night.
Alley1940
4 hours ago
I hope it was a one off or completely innocent Beth. Glad you weren't alone just in case.
samandi
4 hours ago
The other ones that are doing the rounds are the ''Tree /hedge trimmers'' A man offered to cut my sister's single tree for varying amounts - started at £600 and gradually came down to £250. He was quite miffed when she refused ...😄
Redz3112
4 hours ago
FORGIVE CAPS PMP.
BETH,
HOPEFULLY A 1 OFF 🙏🏻
I’M PLEASED YOUR STEPSON’S GIRLFRIEND CAME TO STAY.
Little Owl
5 hours ago
That is worrying, Beth. I would have thought the police could have picked up an image of the vehicle on the main road where there must be cameras. Maybe you could mention it to the police contact at Thames Valley who was coming to look at Storm?
Titchy
6 hours ago
Beth, I do think that Bruce8 has hit the nail on the head. I've been reading of a lot of dog thefts recently and some (thank goodness) have been found at traveler's caravan sites. I know you will.....but be very vigilant!
Jaffa
7 hours ago
I hope it was a one off chancer Beth but worrying.
Marie
7 hours ago
That is strange. I hope it's the last you see of them.
Beth8it!
7 hours ago
If the blighters keep digging up my lawn I might let them! (No chance). Yes, all fine overnight. I stayed up until about 3am, got up 5.30 to make coffee, open door for dogs etc but didn’t get dressed until 6.45 so will probably doze off for half an hour later.
Bruce8
9 hours ago
Unfortunately I've heard of this recently. Sometimes checking the property because they want to take the dogs.
FlowerPower🌺🌼🌸💐🌹🌻🌷🍄
12 hours ago
A bit worrying Beth, hope it doesn’t keep you awake all night! & definitely hope you are ok & able to report back in the morning,
That’s one of the disadvantages of G. Earth, nefarious types can find even really isolated properties, with theft & criminal intent in mind.
A Nick Name
18 hours ago
I did a questionnaire the other day: "Was I abused? Do I have trauma I don't remember?" It turned out I possibly was abused as a child.
What they obviously failed to see was my age. I'm of an age where I don't think everyone has been abused and needs pandering to, or is looking for attention. Having answered all the questions I thought with all this guff out there no wonder people choose to jump on the bandwagon. I was forced to eat food I 'didn't like', I was sent to bed without food if I'd 'been bad', I was beaten with a belt, sometimes the buckle end if I was 'very bad'. Was I abused? Of course I wasn't. I was disciplined in the way many children and parents and even grandparents now could do with these days. I long for that discipline to return and the world to become a better place for it. I could have been arrested recently for causing a youth to be 'triggered' because of language I used against him. I mentioned the word 'work'. I hope I'm not banned on here for using words like that.
Lol 63
14 minutes ago
My dad and his brother used to tell of a teacher at their school who would throw a stick of chalk with all his might at anyone not paying attention in class and hit them in the middle of the forehead every time. Inches away from having an eye out.
If the pupil had their desk lid open, he would hurl the wooden board rubber at their fingers with the force of a cricket fast bowler.
Beth8it!
1 hours ago
Alley, no, I’m currently preparing a letter to ask compensation from the Italian government for the invasion we had by the Romans. I want to do away with all their roads, hot baths and spas and put it back to the roundhuts and longhouses we had before.
Alley1940
4 hours ago
I don't totally agree with all this looking back to the past and then expecting an apology. Yes it may look bad now but then most of it was normal.
Just my opinion of the "nanny" state.
Little Owl
5 hours ago
A Nick Name, discipline is one thing, being beaten with the buckle end of a belt is another, you shouldn't accept that as normal. We had sick bullying teachers at school who used to pick on young boys and beat them just for fun. They weren't even good teachers.
Marie
6 hours ago
Obviously there are some people who have sadly been abused, but that is different from discipline. Abuse is more to do with power, control, anger and unpredictability.
Beth8it!
15 hours ago
I totally floored a marketing caller a few years back - ‘You may have been mis-sold PPI and we can help you…’ ‘No, I was told what the terms were, what the interest and commission was, so it doesn’t apply to me.’ ‘But we can help you get compensation anyway.’ Me: ‘That’s not compensation, it’s insurance fraud and theft.’ Phone dead, no more calls .
Beth8it!
19 hours ago
Puppy tails update:
Police rep who couldn’t make it to see Storm (stuck on Isle of Wight) has confirmed he will be coming this weekend, but said whatever happens, they will definitely have him to go on their course in July, so that’s great.
I went shopping this afternoon and came back, opened the front door, let the dogs out and Indi immediately rushed to the car to help carry things in. I could see a problem coming, as they would want to take whatever she had, and she would want to carry it in to the kitchen to earn her reward. I decided to sacrifice a couple of bananas and gave the boys one each, just to see what they would do, as they love bananas. Indi had the rest of the bunch to carry. I was totally floored when they carefully carried them straight into the kitchen behind me, handed them over and took their reward, and immediately rushed back for something else to carry. I now have two small bunches of bananas with wrappers which Indi carried and one split into individual ones, all of which have little puncture marks all over. There was a bit of a delay at the end, and I stood in the kitchen waiting and wondering… then in comes Storm, very pleased with himself, the third bunch in his mouth, and Indi coming along behind with a single banana, and you could practically see the steam coming out of her ears - Damn kids! That’s MY bunch… he should be carrying this one… mutter mutter!
Photos will follow!
Alley1940
4 hours ago
I have said before that you are reminding me of how much I miss not having a dog(s). Unfortunately not possible these days for me.
Marie
6 hours ago
That's lovely, Beth😊
Jaffa
7 hours ago
Beth your joy has also been ours.
Beth8it!
14 hours ago
They have been the most amazing experience - exhausting, bankrupting, house-wrecking, sleep-depriving, a constant worry about keeping them safe (especially with a 5’ deep pond in the garden) but also funny, loving, delightful, a laugh a minute, making me so proud of them on so many occasions, and I just want to see my kids have a happy, safe life with owners who will love them and treat them well. If they can do a useful life with the police, or as working dogs in some way, that is even better. They will be fulfilled and be doing what they were born to do. Can’t ask for more than that.
AJR
18 hours ago
Oh Beth8it, I bet you’re going to miss Storm, as for the shopping, I can only imagine the scene and look forward to the photos.
Kenny b
a day ago
Just made a mistake with some electrical wiring. I mistakenly wired up my toaster to the electric blanket.
Now every time it heats up I get popped out of bed!!😜😜
Alley1940
3 hours ago
Good one - made m3 laugh out loud. Nice followups too redz.
Buttercup2
4 hours ago
I could just imagine Morecambe and Wise doing a skit on that as I read it...😅
Damsel
18 hours ago
😂 😂 😂
Kenny b
20 hours ago
Good ones redz
Redz3112
a day ago
FORGIVE CAPS PMP.
THAT’S SOME CRUMB-BELIEVABLE ENGINEERING!
ARE YOU PATENTING IT AS A ‘POP UP’ ALARM? 😉
HERE’S A ‘TOAST’ TO YOUR SUCCESS 🥂
Poppy
a day ago
🤣🤣
Redz3112
a day ago
FORGIVE CAPS PMP.
I FIND IT WEIRD MSM IS IGNORING MP RUPERT LOWE’S ‘RAPE GANG INQUIRY’ REPORT - EXPOSING HARROWING TESTIMONIES & SYSTEMIC CHILD PROTECTION FAILURES.
EVER WONDERED WHY THERE WAS A SUDDEN EXPLOSION OF CASH-ONLY BARBERS, VAPE STORES, EMPTY MINI-MARTS & UNREGULATED PRIVATE HIRE VEHICLES?
THE NCA PROVED THEY ARE CRIMINAL FRONTS FOR £ LAUNDERING ETC….
NOW THE POLICE & TRADING STANDARDS ARE USING EMERGENCY LAWS TO RAID & CLOSE THEM FOR 1 YEAR (INVESTIGATIONS).
RUPERT LOWE HAS TABLED A MOTION DEMANDING THE GOVERNMENT IMPLEMENT THE REPORT'S PROTECTIONS & PRIORITIZE CHILD SAFETY OVER POLITICAL SENSITIVITY.
IF ANYONE IS INTERESTED -
https://static1.squarespace.com/static/6810978a41bbc42489eafa81/t/6a314bb1151e511944bd4421/1781615537601/The+Rape+Gang+Inquiry+Report.pdf
(EDITED)
A Nick Name
19 hours ago
I live in a small town of 8,000 people and we are constantly having new barbers opening up, and takeaways, the police have raided the local off licence at least three times while I've lived here. Cars constantly block the pavement and as one leaves another takes its place, all day long. I can see cars still there after midnight even though they're supposed to be closed. In the last six days we've had two stabbings and a machete attack in the area, the first in the next street to us, a young woman stabbed in the neck. Obviously police wouldn't dream of stopping and searching people these days as it's against their human rights. Fortunately, after it happened and they'd arrested the guy we saw police walking around the area. Always good to do that after an attack, as you don't want to be around before or during, anything could happen. It's surprising with the people who live here that it wasn't this bad before now.
Lol 63
a day ago
Every other shop in our high street is a vape store, a mobile phone accessory shop, a Turkish barber shop with no customers, or sometimes a combination of all three.
There is no way there is THAT much demand for vapes, mobile phone covers and Turkish haircuts. There's definitely some money changing hands under the counters.
Millwall Alan
a day ago
💯
Derek. IDC.
a day ago
👏👍
Redz3112
a day ago
FORGIVE CAPS PMP.
FIDSTA,
THE GLOBAL SCALE OF THIS EXPLOITATION IS MASSIVE - HIDDEN IN PLAIN SIGHT!
WHEN THE FULL EXTENT OF WHAT THESE INNOCENT CHILDREN WORLDWIDE HAVE ENDURED IS FINALLY EXPOSED 💔 🤯
ANON,
ABUSE IS ABUSE, REGARDLESS OF THE PERPETRATOR'S BACKGROUND!
JUST REALISED THAT COMMENT IS NO LONGER THERE I GOT CALLED AWAY AS I WAS POSTING.
Marie
a day ago
You can always use an emoji instead.
Chocolate Spaniel
a day ago
@ Fidsta, been asked before. Not going to happen.
Fidsta
a day ago
We need a "Like" button or equivalent.
Consider this "liked", please!
Warrior gorilla
1 days ago
I keep getting bombed out of surveys I think it’s because of my age and being retired
Kiwi Shel 🥝
a day ago
I'm an employed lady in my mid 40s and I've been screened out of all surveys except one. I don't mind as I usually receive a 5p screening out credit 👓
Marie
a day ago
It's just the nature of Market Research. Sometimes you'll be screened out of a survey because you do not meet the demographic requirements. These could be anything such as age range, gender, location, employment status, where you shop etc. Or it could be that the bracket that you fit in to has had enough responses. The external surveys like to have an even amount of answers from each and each bracket type does not get completed at the same rate.
As the external surveys are advertised across many sites, there could be many people completing the surveys at once and it is possible that your bracket could reach its quota while you are in the middle or even at the end of the survey.
Chocolate Spaniel
a day ago
Those of that age group tend to complete surveys earlier than others so the demographic fills more quickly, that's all.
Kenny b
1 days ago
There was a guy in the pub last night telling everyone that he was a huge pop star in the eighties.
No one believed him but he was adamant!!😜😜
Trekker22
6 hours ago
Hi Beth..! I remember it well, on TV from 1966 to 1967 - starred Gerald Harper as Adam, frozen in a block of ice in 1902 and thawed out in 1966 🥶! Love the photos of the “pups”, although they’re much too big to be called that now - “doglets”, perhaps…🤔!
LLAP 🖖!
Beth8it!
19 hours ago
Anyone remember the TV series Adam Adamant?
Lol 63
a day ago
Did you ridicule him? Apparently he isn't scared of it.
Kiwi Shel 🥝
a day ago
😂 🐜
Alley1940
a day ago
Clever.
maddadof
1 days ago
Kb :-) :-)
DaSoothMoother
1 days ago
Nice one Redz
Poppy
1 days ago
🤣🤣
Redz3112
1 days ago
FORGIVE CAPS PMP.
DID HE STAND & DELIVER HIS CONVICTIONS? 😉
jenkins
1 days ago
Prince Charming himself !
Tiseye
1 days ago
😂😁
tetleyt
1 days ago
😂
AJR
2 days ago
Lovely photo's, they've got so big! Thanks for sending them Beth8it and Marie.
Beth8it!
19 hours ago
Yeah, pull the other one! 🙂
samandi
a day ago
Beth, it's quite funny for those of us who don't have to clean up the mess. But I do sympathise with you.
Beth8it!
1 days ago
Enver, Indi is, Shadow is (tries to jump in himself but no chance yet) - Shadow turns round, tail between his legs and immediately gets tense, wants to go back indoors … I am hoping he will be happier next time, after a trip without being sick. My last dog was just the same.
Storm’s latest catastrophe: boys both out in the garden, digging the next mine shaft (no. 3) , and the door is open. I hadn’t seen or heard them for about 10 mins, and that’s usually a bad sign, so I went out to the kitchen, made a cup of coffee and put it on the small table next to my chair. This table is on the sheltered side, between the chair and the fire, away from the main thoroughfare. You can see where this is going, I expect. Anyway, I sat down, put my feet up on the large footstool and whistled. Nothing. Then, with about 0.5 seconds’ warning, storm gallops in, launches himself from about 4’ away, lands on the footstool, it shoots off to the side, hits the fire hearth, stops suddenly, Storm falls off , twists in the air to avoid launching into the fireplace, hits the top of my little table, table tips over, full cup of coffee hits the carpet… Great. Heave the chair out, stand the table up and scrabble round for all the bits out of the holder - TV remote, scissors, pens, reading glasses - check Storm, heave him upright and drag him out to the tap, wash off the coffee from his head and ears (no burns), mop up the coffee… Make a new cup of coffee and try again. Where was I? Oh yes, watching England.
😎👍🏼 ...9--0==✈🌞🐯
1 days ago
How lovely to see them them to get out & about, looks fun, bet they are eager to get in the car for the next trip.
Barrie
1 days ago
Handsome beasts.
samandi
1 days ago
I really like the one where they're sitting in a circle looking up at you. Poppy looks especially cute. Thank you
Little Owl
1 days ago
Thanks Marie and Beth. They are nearly as big as Indi, don't know how you can get on the chair! Lovely beach scene - could just put my feet in the water.
Marie
1 days ago
No problem at all! 😊
Beth8it!
1 days ago
Just heard from the police rep that he has been held up and can’t make it tonight to see Storm. The wait continues!
Shyboy
1 days ago
Really good photos.
maddadof
2 days ago
Nice, thank you B&M...
Jaffa
2 days ago
Yes wonderful pictures of them having fun.
Adley
2 days ago
Yet again screened out of the bonus survey without answering any questions but still got a 5p bonus
Jaffa
2 days ago
You were lucky!
Em
2 days ago
Saying goodbye was hard today, but what is harder is thinking "what now" ...
Thank you for all the support and love which I've had from afar.
figeepoet
14 hours ago
Thank you, all, for such appreciation of my poem. It means so much to me when people are moved by my writing.
And Em, I hope you also find comfort in the huge amount of love this community has for you 💞
Hopeful2B
a day ago
Other people have said what I feel, in my heart, for you. The most difficult part lies ahead, when you feel that the world is moving on, while you are still tied to the past. Believe me, things will improve. He will always be with you.
Bob up and Down🟦
a day ago
Funerals are an opportunity to celebrate a life, but are inevitably sad affairs. The younger they leave us, the worse it is. Try to think of the army of wonderful people, doctors and nurses who gave their all to support you both, and without Simon’s illness, you would never had met. I promise you, you’ll not forget them.
Suelero
a day ago
What a wonderful poem!
Beth8it!
1 days ago
You may find the poem Desiderata gives some comfort, too. Very popular in the 1960s, when it was also turned into a song, the words are lovely.
😎👍🏼 ...9--0==✈🌞🐯
1 days ago
Good poem fingerpoet, we will all experience losses at some time, but the future will eventually show itself & brighten..
Bisto Kid
1 days ago
Beautiful poem from Figeepoet. Print it out and read it often Em, it will bring you comfort on the bad days and give you hope on the good days- the good days will slowly come back just take your time and be good to yourself brave lady xx
samandi
1 days ago
What a beautiful poem figeepoet. I hope it brings comfort to everyone who is missing a loved one.
Redz3112
1 days ago
FORGIVE CAPS PMP.
EM,
HE HAS NOT LEFT YOU, HE HAS ONLY CHANGED FORM.
HIS CONSCIOUSNESS/DIVINE SPARK HAS ASCENDED HOME TO THE PLEROMA, AWAKENED FROM THE ILLUSION OF THE FLESH, HE NOW RESTS IN THE ULTIMATE TRUTH.
LOVE IS AN UNBREAKABLE CORD, IT CANNOT BE BROKEN BY DISTANCE, DIMENSION OR DEATH.
EMBRACE THE QUIET STILLNESS & MEDITATE SENDING WAVES OF LOVE OUT INTO THE UNIVERSE DIRECTLY TO HIS CONSCIOUSNESS, KNOWING THAT PURE LOVE TRANSCENDS PHYSICAL BOUNDARIES.
YOU ONCE TOLD ME YOU VISITED INDIA/PAKISTAN(?), I HOPE THIS RESONATES WITH YOUR TIME AND STUDIES WHILE THERE.
SENDING YOU LIGHT & PEACE.
🕊️
tetleyt
1 days ago
@figeepoet: Perfect poem for a grief stricken time that WILL ease. 💞
Mrs F
1 days ago
You’ve shown such strength and courage throughout and this is what will help you find a way forward.
The poem by figeepoet is so appropriate and describes the stages of grief perfectly.
Always Hope
2 days ago
Thinking of you Em and sending lots of love and best wishes to you.Remember to look after yourself.
Happy
2 days ago
Figeepoet's poem was beautifully written.
There are no words for how you must be feeling Em. But I feel sure Simon is right there with you in spirit, watching over you, so many people who knew Simon, have spoken about a truly lovely man.
We are all here for you when you are ready to return. Take care of yourself and know we are all thinking of you. A big hug from me, to you x
Damsel
2 days ago
Sending lots of love to you Em and thank you figeepoet for the poem.
YogiK
2 days ago
Beautifully expressed sentiments figeepoet. Spoken from the heart and perfectly encapsulates how grief is.
Jaffa
2 days ago
Ditto great thing to post.
Barrie
2 days ago
I have np advice but believe figeepoet's words should help you.
The Octogenarian
2 days ago
Take it slowly, Em, and bit by bit the pieces of the future jigsaw will fall into place. Good luck, and take care of yourself.
maddadof
2 days ago
figeepoet, Such kind and thoughtful words...
AJR
2 days ago
Made me cry too.
Marie
2 days ago
What a beautifully written poem, figeepoet.
Beth8it!
2 days ago
Nailed it, figeepoet. There is no time limit on grieving but there is the comfort of knowing Simon would not want you to lock yourself away from the world, just as you would want him to recover in time if you has been in his place. Keep busy, get plenty of rest and be kind to yourself.
Tudiefair
2 days ago
What a lovely poem…made me cry.
Chocolate Spaniel
2 days ago
What a wonderful, thoughtful and appropriate poem! ❤️
figeepoet
2 days ago
Grief is the beast who lays down in our chest
keeps us from breathing; robs us of rest
He knocks at our door, interrupting our fate
pulls at our heels as we're dragging his weight.
Comes uninvited, no sign and no warning
Brings on the darkness, the pain and the mourning
Nothing makes sense in a world that keeps turning
Left with a heart which is broken and yearning.
Madness ensues, it takes over our brain
Never again will our life be the same
The puzzle's undone, the pieces they scatter
We're left to pick up all the bits that still matter.
Where to begin? Well, that's anyone's guess!
How do we start with the crippling mess?
Making a plan is beyond comprehension
Whilst facing the feelings we don't dare to mention.
Caught in a space filled with sadness and rage
No consolation that this is a stage
Weary at knowing we've only begun
A journey which takes all we have to go on.
But go on, we must, through the pain and the fears
Releasing the heartache; shedding the tears
There will come a day, when the clouds start to part
But only you'll know - you'll hear from your heart.
We owe the departed a life that has meaning
If they were still here they would be intervening
Telling us how they appreciate grief
But they'd much prefer that our life had relief.
Relief from the anguish, the sadness; regret
A good day will never imply we forget.
One day you will notice, you're feeling much lighter
The air will be fresher; the sky looking brighter.
You'll catch yourself thinking, that it's not allowed
How could I ever come out of this cloud?
We mustn't feel guilty when progress is made
This doesn't honour the course we have stayed.
We treasure the memories, and focus on now
We question the why, in accepting the how.
Slowly but surely the puzzle takes shape
Yes, there's a hole,
for so long it will gape.
Thoughts will intrude, for our loved one, we yearn
Yet on the horizon, the joy will return
You'll never stop missing the person you had
And yet, for their presence, you'll always be glad
The time's never right for a final goodbye
But one day, the memories, will not make you cry.
Acceptance creeps in and with it, some peace
The love will remain, in our gentle release.
figeepoet
2 days ago
Thinking of you Em. The whole service was such a beautiful tribute to Simon.
I am so sorry you're having to endure such a loss but, I'm glad you knew the love of such a wonderful person... Hold that love in your heart always.
I hope the following brings some comfort... I wrote it a few years after one of hardest losses I've experienced.
Big hugs and be kind and gentle with yourself xx
jenkins
2 days ago
You have been very brave and strong, spend some time doing things that bring you joy. You have lots of memories to cherish and Simon will always be with you. xx
V
2 days ago
What now is a very big question isn't it ? The silence is the hardest now the goodbyes have been said.
This internet stranger says just focus on one foot in front of the other right now.
Sending you love and best wishes. x
Suelero
2 days ago
Em, Simon is part of you and always will be. I’m sure the “what now” will take care of itself. For now, just concentrate on getting through one day at a time.
Alley1940
2 days ago
Thinking about you Em and wishing you all the above sentiments.
samandi
2 days ago
Sending love and hugs Em. It does get more bearable, just keep talking to Simon, you'll be surprised how much it helps.
Wendyhouse
2 days ago
He will always be with you Em,a thought & only a heartbeat away brave lady 💝
tetleyt
2 days ago
You have so many memories crammed into your short time together. They’ll bring you comfort when needed. One day at a time Em. 💞
Little Owl
2 days ago
Simon is free from his earthly body, but he is still with you, Em. Love to you and Simon's family.
YogiK
2 days ago
Try and do what feels right for you Em. You have done amazingly well so far
maddadof
2 days ago
One step at a time Em...
Jaffa
2 days ago
What now is slowly taking things day by day and coming back to us at PMP in a few weeks.It will take time but you will do it.
Marie
2 days ago
You'll find your way, Em. I know you will.
Shyboy
2 days ago
Take your time. We're all here to give you support and love.
😎👍🏼 ...9--0==✈🌞🐯
2 days ago
Lots of love & virtual hugs to you Em. 🤗💛 Let your friends visit or drag you out to socialise..
Kyno
2 days ago
Sending lots of love to you, Em. ❤️
AJR
2 days ago
Also sending virtual hugs ❤️🤗🤗❤️
Holly’angels
2 days ago
Em, Simon will be with you always. Sending love and prayers.❤️xx
Chocolate Spaniel
3 days ago
I am rarely emotional at funerals, even the closest of relatives, but Simon's funeral, and the heartfelt tributes from Emma, her mother, and Simon's parents, brought me to tears each time.
Fot those who could not watch the service, there will be an On Demand stream available within 3 working days.
Marie
1 days ago
Thanks for helping Shyboy, Poppy.
Poppy
1 days ago
Shyboy, if you go to this website and enter the username and password it should work -
https://watch.obitus.com
Username: kina7746
Password/PIN: 847385
Shyboy
1 days ago
Sorry to be such a pain but can someone give me simple instructions to see the stream?
Marie
2 days ago
The stream is now available if people would like to watch the service.
😎👍🏼 ...9--0==✈🌞🐯
2 days ago
When my mum passed I thought any second I'd hear her keys opening the front door when she returned from shopping, took me a quite a while to dismiss thar feeling.
She did it once before & i found out later that evening she'd had an accident crossing the road & was in hospital.
My lady friend had an aunt, when she passed we said "she bought so many shares in Saga she almost owned the ship , so got given a permanent free cabin & gone on an endless world cruise".
Keep busy, time is a great healer.
Em
2 days ago
I still expect that he's just in his office or out with friends and will be in at any time. I don't know what to do now today is over.
😎👍🏼 ...9--0==✈🌞🐯
2 days ago
I watched online despite slight buffering, it was emotional & nice to see the pics, he was so loved.
Jaffa
2 days ago
My OH and I conducted my mum’s funeral by choice and it helped me hold it together and feel it was a very personal goodbye.
Brave Lady .
Chocolate Spaniel
2 days ago
It was a beautiful remembrance of Simon, Em, and humbling to see the love you and other family members had of him.
Em
2 days ago
Thank you all. The Crematorium were panicking because the celebrant had gone to the wrong place, but the ex-teacher in me took over. I was so used to speaking in front of a group, I was at my element. Plus it was so much easier to walk straight to the front rather than sit down and wait. I just said that I would take over. I wanted to welcome and acknowledge people in my speech anyway.
Chris came on behalf of my colleagues and Bruce8 came for himself and on behalf of the whole community. I was so touched that a PMP-er came. I made sure to introduce Bruce8 to Chris. It meant a lot that they both came.
Thank you to everyone in the community who donated in memory of Simon and to those who watched online.
Words can't expain how much I appreciate both the donations and watches.
I can't decide if I want to watch it back or not ...
Hatterles
2 days ago
I was planning to watch but a 2 hours 20 minutes call from HMRC meant that I missed it. I will try to catch the "on demand" when it appears.
Val1101
2 days ago
Same here Chocolate Spaniel , well done Em , your Mum and Simon’s Parents 🫶
Tudiefair
3 days ago
Very moving and I don’t even know them. Glad I’d got the tissues handy. Learned so much more about Simon too…bless him.
maddadof
3 days ago
I agree with all of the above. Take care Em, all my love. Xx
tetleyt
3 days ago
Very emotional….😭
I also could never have stood up and spoke in front of anyone at anytime, never mind at the funeral of a loved one.
💔Well done Em❤️🩹
Pretty sure Simon will have laughed at you showing his Disney Pictures. 😂
Marie
3 days ago
A very hard watch indeed.
AJR
3 days ago
I also watched, and was in tears too. Em was so brave opening up the service, something I could never do.
monkee65
3 days ago
AGAIN, SCREENED OUT. ???AGEISM or HOMOPHOBIA???
Bob up and Down🟦
a day ago
@lol63 - well we all know now, but it’s of zero interest to me. My son’s godfather is gay. No one’s business but his.
Beth8it!
2 days ago
Yes, but in your case they are! 😈😊
Hatterles
2 days ago
@BethBit - I'm not paranoid but that doesn't mean that the buggers aren't out to get me :)
Lol 63
2 days ago
When you say "Homophobia" does the survey actually ask if you're gay? Or are you just assuming that they know?
Malc_H
2 days ago
monkey65 is not known for bothering to read sensible replies to their posts. Just likes an uninformed rant.
3 days ago
We are all different people from all age groups in different areas and we all get screened out of more surveys than we complete.
It’s the nature of surveys that are often circulated by scores of companies throughout the country and often internationally.
Demographics fill up very quickly.
The vast majority of surveys require a very broad range of people but if too many are from a certain area etc it would skew the results, hence limits on numbers are placed.
There are other scenarios where the buyer of the survey results only needs to canvass a specific demographic, so anyone falling outside of that is rejected.
For example, political surveys limited to a specific area, baby products aimed at parents, mobility products aimed at people with difficulties, travel questions aimed at people who use airlines etc etc.
Marie
3 days ago
It's just the nature of Market Research. Sometimes you'll be screened out of a survey because you do not meet the demographic requirements. These could be anything such as age range, gender, location, employment status, where you shop etc. Or it could be that the bracket that you fit in to has had enough responses. The external surveys like to have an even amount of answers from each and each bracket type does not get completed at the same rate.
As the external surveys are advertised across many sites, there could be many people completing the surveys at once and it is possible that your bracket could reach its quota while you are in the middle or even at the end of the survey.
Our FAQs explain more about external surveys, including how we can help if you have reached 80% completion or beyond:
https://help.pickmypostcode.com/article/89-surveys
https://help.pickmypostcode.com/category/102-surveys
Beth8it!
3 days ago
Neither - if they have enough of a certain group they won’t want any more - if they are looking for say student age and you are retired they won’t want you. They certainly don’t care about individuals enough to say ‘Oh it’s him/her, block them out’! Don’t get paranoid, it’s not worth it.
Mrs F
3 days ago
Thinking of Em and all the family today and hope everything goes as well as you could hope
Em
2 days ago
Thank you all. Give it 3 days and it'll be available on catch up.
Beth8it!
3 days ago
Just dropped in quickly as I can’t watch the funeral today (study session) but I will watch it later. Hope it all goes as well as it could.
Titchy
3 days ago
Indeed, a very difficult day. I hope Em will draw a little comfort, after this day is over, knowing that a good number of her PMP family were with her, giving all our love and support virtually. RIP Simon
Post funeral service...Well fellow PMPer's, we knew Em could be so brave when it was necessary, but my goodness, what an incredible, resilient person she has just proved to be.
Suelero
3 days ago
A difficult day.
Poppy
3 days ago
Me too.
Enver, as Em is having the funeral videoed to go online she should have the option of having the recording on a memory stick to keep.
Val1101
3 days ago
Same here , I am going to watch the obituary online . 💙❤️ x
Alley1940
3 days ago
Me too.
😎👍🏼 ...9--0==✈🌞🐯
3 days ago
Me too, Edit: it was a nice tribute, it says
"An on demand stream has been ordered, available within 3 working days. Check back here later"
Happy
3 days ago
Thinking of Em and families also.
At least the weather will be kind for the funeral.
YogiK
3 days ago
And me
AJR
3 days ago
Me too.
Marie
3 days ago
Same from me.
Beth8it!
3 days ago
Anybody seen the pictures of the cat that wandered on stage during Romeo’s death scene in the ballet Romeo & Juliet? Priceless pics of Romeo sprawled out on stage, Juliet tenderly bending over him, and the cat comfortably relaxed alongside his arm. They are entitling it Romeow and Juliet. I think it was on stage in Turkey, so it could have been worse! Lots of details on social media if anyone wants to look.
csikijanos
3 days ago
Many years ago, the school play : The lead, Hamlet, tripped during the sword fight and broke his leg.
Understudy took over then and for the following night. After that he was back on stage in a plaster cast. Made of stern stuff was David McPherson Young.
Barrie
3 days ago
Congratz to the dancers. We saw the Bolshoi academy once & one of the lad's lost his footing, hit the stage & got applause for the speed of his recovery
Redz3112
3 days ago
FORGIVE CAPS PMP.
YES I SAW IT 😁
Suelero
3 days ago
Living not too far from Stratford on Avon we have seen lots of productions at the RSC. The most boring thing I have ever paid to see was their bare stage production of Romeo and Juliet many years ago. A cat would have been very welcome.
Alley1940
3 days ago
Very amusing.
3 days ago
Watch the video clip...the cat takes a fancy to Romeo's long locks and starts pulling, chewing and grabbing...as they do. As Romeo has died he can't move. Juliet pulls him by the legs to disengage! Hilarious!
Poppy
3 days ago
That's so funny!!
Biggus Rickus
3 days ago
Good morning all. I am just off to work but I will be thinking very much of Emma and Simon throughout today.
Em
2 days ago
Thank you. It was a lovely send off.
Buttercup2
3 days ago
Me too, hope all goes well and the weather behaves 💔
Marie
3 days ago
💕
Kenny b
3 days ago
Thinking of selling all my John Lennon vinyl albums on eBay.
Can you imagine all the PayPal!!😜😜
Beth8it!
2 days ago
Well, you dragged them up, Lol - your fault.
Lol 63
2 days ago
I told my grown up kids, but they didn't recognise the song.
Sad.
tetleyt
3 days ago
😂
maddadof
3 days ago
:-)
samandi
3 days ago
Good
A Nick Name
3 days ago
It took me a minute to get that, then when I did I thought that's allwhite.
Mrs Pea 🫛
3 days ago
😂🤣😂
Anonymous
3 days ago
I’m really disappointed because I ordered a couple of epicooler units and they haven’t turned up. The only reason I trusted the site was because you advertise them. Not happy. 😡
Marie
3 days ago
The only ads we make are for our own sites Win A Dinner and Snip. We also add offers from the companies which we are affiliated with. You will know if something is added to the site by us and is a vetted offer because it will have one of our buttons on it that says something like “Shop now” etc.
The rest are Google ads and you can close these with the little x in the corner of the ad. I am afraid that we have no control about what ads our members get shown/served and each member could have something different. Your browsing history will affect what adverts you are shown, to some extent.
We would recommend that members do their due diligence and research any company before they take any action.
Other members have reported these adverts as being a scam and I passed the report onto the company that helps us with the ads last week. They are trying to find and remove them.
Sorry that you haven't received anything. Please contact your bank to see if they can help.
CarolineC
3 days ago
Anon - did you pay by credit card or paypal? If by credit card, contact your bank and stop the payment. If by paypal you can go into your account and stop it there. As others have said, those are just google ads and nothing to do with PMP.
A Nick Name
3 days ago
epicoolers are not much more than a cheap fan similar to what's sold on TEMU , Amazon and other sites but at vastly inflated prices. They aren't really an air conditioner. Many others also say theirs are but in reality are just fans.
Chocolate Spaniel
3 days ago
The only ads made by PMP are the ones for Win A Dinner & Snip, their own sites. All others are Google ones which are not to be trusted. This is explained in the FAQ which you are encouraged to read when you join.
I believe these items originate from China? The ads are from a Lithuanian company and the product is drop shipped. The Trustpilot reviews do not make for good reading either.
https://help.pickmypostcode.com/article/113-what-to-do-if-you-see-a-dodgy-or-inappropriate-advert
3 days ago
It probably is nothing to do with PMP . Their ads are on the Bonus Offer page. I've never seen Was an offer on coolers. it a Google advert? Google adverts appear on just about every site on the Internet and are notoriously full of scams, fakery and nonsense. If you are EVER tempted by a Google ad on any site, you need to do your due diligence. Look up the company and find out about it check recent Trustpilot reviews etc. If you can't verify their trustworthyness avoid like the plague. Also, even if they did arrive the chances of them simply being a shoddily made fan and electrically unsafe are very likely.
Please people, avoid Google ads and look for items on reputable sites.
Beth8it!
4 days ago
In 2023 I updated my will, attaching a list of beneficiaries. I emailed my solicitor a week or so ago to say that I wished to amend the beneficiaries as some had died, and I wanted to adjust some others. The basic will was unchanged. I have just got a reply to say you can change ‘chattels’ left to others by a codicil, but not money gifts, which will need a new will. The cost? Normal rate £350/hr, but she would probably charge £365/hr as there are several alterations.
My reply? Thanks for replying but I have paid a lot for the will in 2023, not inclined to pay that much on top to change a simple list which is clearly set out. £350/hr may be acceptable to a solicitor but not to someone on a pension - I wasn’t earning that much for a week in my last job, let alone an hour.
And would it get done in one hour? What do you reckon? And is there VAT on top? I bet there is. Stuff it. I’ll go to a charity, give them a donation and get them to re-write it and amend the attachment. Time to make a stand.
Beth8it!
1 hours ago
Wisp - I have wondered about that name-on-a-boat donation. Surely it must cost a big chunk of the donation to print, clean off and prepare the surface and then apply the new name each time?
Wisp
19 hours ago
Yep I did that with donation from my Estate to a recognised F2F Solicitor to RNLI as I have previously supplied them with their comms helmets. It was a privildge to work to supply them and i would do it for nothing if I couls have.
Did you know RNLI get NO, YES, NO Government funding. See their website to donate to a slip on one of their new boats to dedicate a name that goes to sea.
Buttercup2
3 days ago
I went to a solicitor and got a new will done for free, just had to leave a token amount to whatever charity I chose. They even gave me a paper photocopy to keep safely at home
3 days ago
I was advised that a codicil would cost between £80 and £150.
Marie
3 days ago
That does seem a lot of money for what you want to do.
Lol 63
3 days ago
Yes indeed what Malc_H said.
Print out your previous will from 2023, take that along with the amendments you want to make, it'll be a piece of cake for someone who does it for a living.
They can stick their £365/hr where the sun doesn't shine. What a rip off!
Malc_H
4 days ago
Free wills weeks, linked with various charities, are twice a year (March and October I think). Recently did ours through English Heritage. Strangely enough, the wills are drafted or checked by solicitors.
Penny
4 days ago
Your former solicitor isn’t earning £350 an hour either. Why do people not understand this?
Happy to hear that you’re planning a generous donation to charity though 😀
AJR
4 days ago
I know this probably sounds stupid, but would it be cheaper to make out another will? Although I do like your thought of getting the charity to amend it.
Chocolate Spaniel
4 days ago
Just a gentle reminder to those that wish to watch Simon's funeral tomorrow ....
Live stream details.... https://watch.obitus.com
Username: kina7746 Password/PIN: 847385
Current donation level ... £3,221.25
Em
2 days ago
Thank you Choc.
Thank you all.
Bruce8
3 days ago
Thanks CS.
For those not able to be there or be online, please remember to pray.
maddadof
3 days ago
Thank you CS, much appreciated..
Mrs Pea 🫛
3 days ago
Thanks CS. Like Cakey, I have a reminder on my calender but didn't know about the log-in details.
Me
3 days ago
I will be at work, but will be holding Em, Simon and family in my thoughts.
Marie
3 days ago
💕
Val1101
3 days ago
Thanks CS , will be watching . Saw the videos that Em put on , so emotional and such a beautiful couple dancing beautifully 🥰 x
tetleyt
4 days ago
Thanks AJR, my memory not what it was.
AJR
4 days ago
Tetleyt, it's 1.30pm
tetleyt
4 days ago
Thanks CS. 👍
What time is the funeral again?
Cakey🎂
4 days ago
Thanks for that CS, I have a reminder in my calendat but not the detail
Beth8it!
4 days ago
Update on Storm - Surrey have said today they definitely can’t take him at 5 months, but Thames Valley are due to start a course in July and he chased today to see if I had heard, so I think he is keen. Currently checking for dates to come and see him. I will keep you informed but it looks like he will be here for a little while longer at least.
Beth8it!
3 days ago
The police rep is coming Weds evening - he will be down at Lee on Solent so not far to come (closer than Birmingham anyway). Quick crash session brushing up on Storm’s training - he has been doing well until this morning when he ran off to approach a mare and foal with me screaming at him to come back (it’s one of the three related grey mares who are known for their nasty tempers) and he not only tried to sniff its back legs but then went up to the foal too! I think the mare was either in a good mood or couldn’t believe it. By the time she had swung round to drive him off he had come away. I have spent weeks teaching him to ignore the horses and he’s been quite good up to now, but he is fascinated by them, whereas Shad ignores them. Storm and Indi then met three spaniels and a dachshund in the woods but was very well-behaved (I had taken Shad home after a very short walk to save his bad leg and gone out again with Storm and Indi). However, he then met a jogger, after swimming in the stream, and kept jumping up at her. Don’t think she was happy, but she kept lifting her arm up and down away from him, so he kept jumping…
Marie
3 days ago
I'm sure you won't mind having him for a bit longer, Beth.
Beth8it!
4 days ago
I’ve got a dentist appointment today at 2.30 How appropriate?
Beth8it!
1 hours ago
Nick, I have been very restrained but would just comment that when women open their mouths, at least something sensible comes out of it, unlike …
Wisp
19 hours ago
Wash your mouth out : 0
Get yer coat !!
A Nick Name
1 days ago
70 minutes with your mouth open? That's nothing for a woman.
Oooh, I'd best get ready for all the slaps.
Jaffa
2 days ago
Been there Beth.Do be prepared it may ache on and off for a few weeks while it settles down.
Beth8it!
3 days ago
Root canal work in an upper wisdom tooth. I will leave you to guess how I felt after 70 mins with my mouth open. No pain, except a bit bruised where the injection went in, but another session on 25th and then crown fitted. Thank goodness for Denplan!
A Nick Name
3 days ago
Everyone's different. I make all mine for 8:42 as it's easy to remember. I just think of doughnuts.
Mrs. M
3 days ago
Mr M tries to make all his appointments (not just dentist) for 2.30 as he says it’s easy to remember 🫤
Alley1940
3 days ago
That is the very old Chinese joke.
Hope all goes well Beth.
Malc_H
4 days ago
Hope it doesn't. 😁
samandi
4 days ago
Ouch!
AJR
4 days ago
🤣🤣
Poppy
4 days ago
🤣
maddadof
4 days ago
;-)
Beth8it!
4 days ago
Puppy Tails: our first trip to the beach today. Yesterday I rang the local chemist and asked what the current equivalent of Dramamine was, as my spare tablets are about 20 yrs old, so probably not ideal to use! Pharmacist said he had Avomine in stock, and I looked it up to check it was OK (didn’t tell him it was for Storm). The 5yr old child dose was 1/2 tablet so I thought that would probably be OK, gave it an hour to work then drove the 5miles or so to Calshot. Storm was immediately stressed out, tense and starting to dribble in the car before we left, but we got there without incident. Luckily the tide was just coming in, perfect for the boys. Indi hurtled after her floating dummy into the shallow water, which was lovely and warm, the boys looked hard then went too, and spent the next half hour splashing, jumping, fighting and rolling around as the water gradually came in around us. I thought half an hour was enough for them, as they were slowing up a bit, though Indi wanted to carry on, but they were looking tired by then - it’s hard work running through water anyway, even when it’s too shallow to swim, and there is a strong current at Calshot. We got home, they all went in the shower one at a time to get the salt out, then had to be dried, then I had the floor and shower to clean and dry… after feeding them, I was ready for my coffee! I have a few pictures, not very good because it was so bright I couldn’t see the screen - a case of click and hope. I will send them over tomorrow.
Wisp
19 hours ago
Ahh ! i was at Burley only yesterday then onto Steamer Point, it was a beautiful walk there
Beth8it!
3 days ago
Wasn’t a problem when they took Lexi! Storm doesn’t panic, just throws up. Hopefully the tablets will break the stress cycle - it worked for my last dog, who was also a bad traveller but a couple of trips NOT being sick let her relax, and we got from Hampshire to Scotland in her last year. It really does work.
DaSoothMoother
3 days ago
@Beth8it! - If Storm panics in a stationary car, the Police are going to return him. That is if they even take him when they come to collect!
tetleyt
4 days ago
👍
maddadof
4 days ago
Thank you Marie..
Marie
4 days ago
As usual, I'll send any photos out when I can.
😎👍🏼 ...9--0==✈🌞🐯
4 days ago
While general tool hire companies like Speedy Services or tool-rental specialists like Inlec rent out industrial thermal cameras, these devices are designed for buildings or electrical circuits and lack the precise calibration needed for medical animal scans. Furthermore, analyzing medical thermal data requires professional training
Beth8it!
4 days ago
He was fine in the sea but still not great at home - I kept him on the lead for most of his walk this morning, which didn’t go down well! Looks like it’s going to be a visit to the vet next week. I can’t find anyone local who does the thermal camera imaging, so unless I can hire one - not that I would know how to operate it! - the vet is the only option. I think it’s just rest that he needs, but it’s not fair to leave him too long.
samandi
4 days ago
How's Shadow's leg now Beth?
Kenny b
4 days ago
Just thinking 🤔
If you order an axe from an overseas country and get it delivered, would you have a foreign accent?? 😜😜
Wisp
19 hours ago
: ) : )
Buttercup2
3 days ago
Think it was meant as a joke... foreign "axe sent" 🤔
😎👍🏼 ...9--0==✈🌞🐯
3 days ago
@Alley1940 - it's Customs Duty on certain imports.
Alley1940
3 days ago
Yes - but would probably get confiscated by Border Control. If it did get through you would have to pay VAT on it plus an £8 handling fee by the Post Office.
tetleyt
4 days ago
😂
Poppy
4 days ago
🤣
maddadof
4 days ago
:-)
samandi
4 days ago
Yes 😁
Damsel
4 days ago
😂